happy talk with me

this too shall pass

2010-11-19T02:00:00.000-08:00

i have not written any posts here for ages for various reasons, one being that lately i have felt overwhelmed with a capital o. infact the word overwhelmed is an understatement. my life with cfs/me feels so unfair. the list of my moans are endless, lack of money as i cant work, major stress getting benefits, knowing my home is going to be repossessed soon, a boiler thats packed in just when its turned very chilly, a major building site across from me that means constant loud drilling and banging noises every day from 8-7 plus a mother who constantly calls to criticize me and judge me, and that's just for starters!

however i have a 'mantra' i say to myself repeatedly: this too shall pass.

everything changes, no situation good nor bad is permenant. i know that things wont always be this way for me, that's how life is.

sleepydust

2010-09-17T08:05:00.000-07:00

a little video i found at sleepydust may help the friends and family of cfs/me sufferers understand the a bit more about what it's like to live with a condition that can turn your life upside down.

treats are good, no matter how small.

2010-08-29T11:23:00.000-07:00

treats are nice. for me they are a rare thing these days, but that somehow makes them more special. long gone are the days when i would treat myself to a new pair of shoes or the latest cd's. nowadays whilst on a very tight budget that only allows for essentials, i savour the occasional bar of chocolate that once upon a time i had simply taken for granted.

this week i treated myself to a box of rose tea. it delighted my senses. the tea smells wonderful, tastes lovely, the colour of the tea is beautiful and the words inside the box are quite fitting for this time of year.

what little treats make you happy?

celebrate good times come on!

2010-08-29T10:10:00.000-07:00

i was given some good advice this week by someone who is instrumental in helping me regain my health as she is helping me with my pacing. i have at last figured out my baseline and have less severe symptoms when i have only short bursts of activity (10-20 min) followed by lots of rest.

i was bemoaning about the fact this seems to work well until i use more energy than this by doing things i have to do including going to the post office to pay bills, food shopping, and getting to medical appointments. i have nobody to help me with these, and that can often get me down. even things i want to do like going to my allotment or meeting a friend for a coffee can end up being a major challenge and also leave me completely gubbed (shattered) and fit for nothing. however as i have often said i feel very lucky that i am not one of the 25% cfs/me sufferers who are housebound, i have no idea how i would manage at all then....

stephanie suggested that when i manage to do any of the above it should be a cause for celebration. i guess she is correct. if i cant avoid doing things that exhaust me i may as well celebrate the fact that my body worked well enough to get me out of bed and outside no matter how much of a challenge it was or even the repercussions.

it reminded me of a meditation on the MBCT course i was on called the gratitude bodyscan. it was very powerful as it made me remember all the amazing places where my tired, aching legs had taken me in the past and all the wonderful things i had done with my now weary arms! yup my body had been good to me so i should be kind to it in return.

we are what we eat?

2010-08-22T23:25:00.000-07:00

when you are affected by chronic fatigue and live on your own life can be a constant struggle in many, many ways, and one of them is eating properly. sometimes i have found it difficult just to get out of bed, let alone shop for food, prepare healthy meals and living off a very tight budget makes the situation even worse.

i have often found myself missing meals, even if there is food in the fridge as i am too exhausted (or in too much pain) to cook a proper meal. And when you have a chronic illness it is crucial to get as many nutrients in our diets as possible to help ourselves heal, including enough vit c, calcium, magnesium and omega 3's.

and there is very little practical help or advice available. so through time i have learned to manage my symptoms and life as best i can and this includes finding ways to simplify my eating and prepare ahead for 'bad days'. here's a few things that i find help me eat better and more regularly.

*on my 'better days' i cook a big batches of things like lentil and tomato soup or veggie curry and rice to freeze- so that on 'bad days' i can just pop a container in the microwave to heat.

*i am very lucky as i live very close to an inexpensive supermarket where i can get most things i need however many people who are not as fortunate as myself and are housebound for example at least may have the option nowadays of ordering groceries online. even when i manage to get to the store however i still have lots of challanges to face - bright lights, noise, only buying as much i can carry home, having to bend or reach to get some groceries which can cause me pain, forgeting what i came in for etc so here are some great shopping tips from adrienne. i always remember a list, only get a very few things at a time, have a proper rest once home, remember to take deep breaths when i feel overwhelmed and pace myself the rest of the day.

*i make the most of frozen food, it can be just as good for you as fresh and saves a lot of preparation. i make easy veggie curries using bags of (ready chopped) mixed veg and peas.

*i find breakfast the easiest meal to prepare when exhausted, either boiled eggs and toast, or yummy porridge using ready mixed oats and seeds, soya milk and frozen berries.

*i try and always have a bag of mixed nuts, seeds and dried fruit to munch on in between meals or scoff rather than miss a meal.

*i have a big glass of protein shake that's easy to make and delicious for when i am off my food or concerned about not getting protein in my diet. (i add bananas or berries for extra goodness)

*getting enough omega 3's is very important, thank goodness then for little tins of mackerel or sardines that make cheap and super healthy little meals. just add toast.

*bananas are full of goodness, i always try and have some in my fruit bowl if possible, as well as apples to munch on and my local supermarket normally has many seasonal fruits on offer.

here are some cooking and grocery shopping tips others affected with cfs/fibro, along with other useful tips on how to manage housework.

i will keep adding to this list - and any tips, advice or recipes you can share would be fab. :-)

oops ive done it again.

2010-08-21T04:28:00.000-07:00

once again i have been neglecting this little blog. it's just it would be so easy to just use it to moan, moan, moan about the unfairness of living with cfs/me/fibro and although that is the reality, it's not what the aim of this blog is about. it's about showing how there are ways to manage symptoms better and keep a positive mind no matter how bad things are.

there are always going to be up's and down's on the road to recovery from any chronic illness and negative feelings are a part of that, especially as you can feel the world is against you and it is all to easy to give up hope. right now i am spending my time trying to count my blessings for what i have, not what has been taken away from me, and concentrate on how i can somehow one day use my experience to help other sufferers through this debilitating illness. i am finding out how to manage my illness as best i can, and to try and do this with kindness towards myself.

new posts soon along with some guest blogs from some very inspiring people.

just a little green

2010-07-25T08:09:00.000-07:00

i can often feel very sorry for myself as i live in the city and don't have a garden. i have to remind myself that i am one of the lucky ones with cfs/me that is not totally housebound and every so often i can manage a wee trip to the local park. the summer weather here has been not so good so i am lucky to live near a park with winter gardens that is cozy and peaceful and full of plant life from all over the world.

having contact with nature is so important. we are not just living in nature we are nature. for example it is known that people with views of nature after surgery heal faster with less complications than those with a view of a wall.

are you having enough contact with nature? could you create a small place in your home that helps you contact with beauty and peace? a small corner or a shelf with plants, or even some shells, pebbles or a little vase of wildflowers may bring a little nature indoors for you.

chronic pain - medication v meditation

2010-06-28T01:59:00.000-07:00

if you have read some of my other posts you will know that pain plays a big part in my life. due to me/cfs/fibro everyday my muscles and joints are achey and sore - a similar feeling to when you have the flu. some days are worse than others with certain parts of my body felling pain that may be throbbing, hot, deep or piercing. sometimes even just typing at the computer for a while can make my pain worse or bring on muscle weakness. (impaired ability to sustain force during and after repetitive muscle exercise) other times too much activity like bending, standing too long or walking can bring on a 'flare up' in my pain. this will be more than familiar to the majority of people affected by me/cfs/fibro - we can all push our activities a little too much (especially if we have nobody to help us with day to day things that need to be done, or we are enjoying an activity) and pay for it later.

after a long time suffering without much help, my doctor eventually sent me to the pain clinic at stobhill hospital. (like most nhs services there was a long waiting list) i had already tried amitriptyline which helped slightly but left me feeling groggy and totally out of it all day. the dr at the clinic prescribed gabapentin, building up the dosage over 6 weeks. this offered me no pain relief but gave me more side affects that were awful including yet again that groggy feeling, this time with depression thrown in. (if it did not trigger depression it most certainaly made it worse)at my latest appointment last week, i was told i would be prescribed yet another medication to try (this on will be similar to amitriptyline but fingers crossed, should have less side affects.) i am also wary of long term use of painkillers like co-codamol which i am meant to take daily, but don't always help relieve my pain anyway.

so i have also been looking into other ways that may help my pain. i tried accupuncture sadly without any success, although it has been known to help many others. the nurse at the pain clinic told me that a tens machine may help, however it can only be used in one area at a time and my pain is more general. it still may we worth discussing this with my gp. when using a tens machine small electrical pulses are delivered to the body via electrodes on the skin. this is thought to affect the way that pain signals are sent to the brain, if pain signals are blocked we may experience less pain. i have also read about natural pain helpers including supplements of magnesium, vitamin b12, malic acid, omega 3s and vitamin d. i have discussed these with my own gp and dr at the homeopathic hospital and both say that they don't see any advantage in taking supplements. this is a bit of a surprise to me, and i am not sure i agree that i get sufficient nutrients in my diet alone, especially when i am often to poorly to feed myself properly! on a limited budget, like many people affected with me/cfs it's not easy to stock up with proper supplements.

the other avenue i have explored for pain relief is meditation. i have previously mentioned this is one area with lots of research showing benefits for chronic pain. i have been reading'living well with pain and illness' by vidyamala birch, founder of breathworks, and i am planning to go on one of her courses later in the year. vidyamala herself has suffered from chronic back pain for over 30 years, now a wheelchair user she shows that by developing a calm, mindful awareness of your body in each and every moment it is possible to let go of frustration and distress. this book is an inspiring, practical guide to living with and managing chronic pain and illness. vidyamala says:

''its easy to get locked into aversion and distraction if you're living with pain as a fixed and hard 'thing'-a monster lurking in the shadows that dominates your life because you fear it. that's where mindfulness comes in. the awareness you can develop through mindfulness is steady, calm and kind, and it's subtle and precise enough for you to notice the different elements of an experience. paying attention to a painful sensation, for example allows you to investigate it, to explore it's texture and to see it for what it is, rather than what you imagine it to be''.

i am also a big fan of the wildmind which has many articles about the benefits of meditation for chronic pain like this one. i have found that through regular mindfulness meditation i cope better living with daily pain, and for that reason would encourage anyone who who struggles with chronic pain or illness to practice it.

help to heal

2010-06-26T13:25:00.000-07:00

before i pop back to the library with this book 'healing without freud or prozac' by dr david servan-schreiber i wanted to give you my thoughts on it. it was on the recommended reading list for people attending the WEL course. i found this book very interesting and would be a good read for anyone interested in well being, even though it was written for those suffering from depression. as we know depression can be a symptom of cfs/me normally due to the lack of support, change in lifestyle and day after day feeling exhaustion, pain and a host of other symptoms. this is what has happened to me recently so i was interested to check out this book to see what i could perhaps try to help myself.

in this book dr servan-schreiber discusses 9 self healing treatment methods, each method in its own way supports the body's constant attempt to foster coherence, to recover its balance-

''these different methods work in synergy, they all strengthen each other and the parasympathetic nervous system. in chronic conditions modern western generally helps only with crisis, it does not help the underlying condition. a chronic illness arises through complex interactions between body systems that have started to malfunction. to overcome a chronic illness, we need to capitalise on all the mechanisms of self healing to which we have access. each one of the following methods has been studied individually and found to be effective, the most effective treatment is to find a combination that is best adapted to each person, the combination that has the greatest chance of transforming his pain and giving his life his energy back''.

1. practice heart coherence. this is about learning how to control our emotional being. throughout our life's we all develop our preferred method of self soothing during times of increased stress, like relying on booze, cigarettes, drugs etc we would be in better shape to capitalize on th self healing abilities of the emotional brain and of the body to reach a balance between cognition, emotions and a sense of what life can provide. to practice heart coherence begin by taking two deep breaths, stay focused on your breath and pause for a few seconds in between breaths. unlike eastern meditation practices in which you stay focused on the breath it works best to centre your attention on the region of the heart after your breathing stabilizes. then imagine you are breathing through your heart (or through the centre of the chest if you do not yet feel your heart directly. imagine when you breath through your heart that each intake of oxygen nourishes your body and each exhalation rids it of the waste it no longer needs. imagine that they are helping your body make the most of the gift of attention and respite it is receiving from you. then become aware of the sensations of warmth developing in your chest, encourage your heart by drawing on a feeling of gratitude or love whither towards another being, an object, a peaceful scene, a memory of an nice experience. the very act of recalling a positive emotion or imagining a pleasurable scene rapidly provokes a transition of heart rate variability towards a state of coherence. this practice can in turn benefit the immune system. the heartmath institute is dedicated to the research of cardiac coherence. (i have practiced heartmath meditation however i do still prefer mindfulness meditation - i will continue to practace both.)

2. address painful memories. do you have painful memories when thinking about past events that continue to trigger painful feelings? if thinking or talking about them brings tears or feelings of anger then it hasn't been resolved.any memory that you actively try to suppress is generally one that left a scar on your emotional brain. old wounds can continue to condition how we experience life. a few sessions of EMDR can clear out the consequences of old suffering and give rise to a new and more harmonious perspective on life. apparently a specially trained phychiatrist makes people move their eyes back and forth in imitation of the way our eyes move when we are dreaming while we evoke an image of the memory. (i would imagine this would be quite expensive but sounds really interesting)

3. manage conflict and 4. enrich relationships. it is important to identify chronic conflicts i present relationships. if they continually pollute the flow of our emotional life, they can end up blocking our mechanisms of adaption and self-healing. dr servan-schreiber tells us in order to effectively assert ourselves through healthy emotional communication we should follow his six point STABEN cue card for handling conflict: S source - make sure you are dealing with the person who is the source of the problem and has the means to solve it. T time and place - make sure that the discussion takes place at a favourable time in a protected, private space. A amicable approach - make sure the person feels at ease with your very first words, preferably the listener's own name. B objective behaviour - get to the heart of the matter, explain the behaviour that motivates your grievance while description to what happened. E emotion - you must say what emotions you feel as a result, like 'i felt hurt'. N need - what need do you feel that has not been recognised? i.e 'i need to feel like i matter to you'. (i plan to try this method out while talking to my mother! i will let you know how i got on!)

5.maximise omega - 3s. consider re balancing your diet by increasing fish content by eating more mackerel, herring, tuna etc (or veggie sources of omega 3 fatty acids - walnuts, spinach or flax seeds) and reduce unhealthy fats. (i have started taking supplements daily and will be eating more sardines etc!)

6. get high on exercise. 20 to 30 minutes three times a week can do wonders for anxiety and depression, pick an activity you enjoy, if possible join a group of like minded exercisers for motivation. (sadly for people with me/cfs this is not an option. i have to pace myself as even small amounts of exercise can make my symptoms much worse. (although some movement is vital to prevent further muscle wastage) for the moment i walk and do gentle yoga stretches for short periods each day if possible and i dream of the day i can get high on exercise again!)

7. wake up to the sun. our body's benefit from waking up more peacefully in the morning. all that is required each day to reset our biological clock is to replace our alarm clock with a dawn stimulator. (i would love to purchase one of these in the future)

8. tap into your meridians. in tibetan medicine emotional symptoms and physical ones are simply two sides of the same thing: an imbalance in the circulation of energy, the qi . acupuncture treatments can address this re balance. can be good for physical symptoms such as pain. (sadly a course of treatment did not help my pain - read about my experience here -but it works for many people)

9. seek a larger connection. for most of us a true sense of peace can only be reached once we have found out how we can contribute to the community that we live in and feel comfortable with the role we have in it. those who have the good fortune of being connected this way often feel propelled much beyond a simple well being: they feel that they draw their energy from what gives meaning to life itself, in good times and in hardships. (i felt this way for years when i helped out at a soup kitchen)

to find out more about this book visit the website which contains more advice and useful addresses.

biomedical research

2010-06-26T11:57:00.000-07:00

last thursday myself and many other folk affected with me/cfs symptoms attended a meeting in the south side of glasgow about the developments and advances in biomedical research and treatments of this illness. cathcart me support group welcomed dr abhijit chaudhuri, consultant neurologist at the essex centre for neurological sciences in essex. renowned as a caring researcher of me/cfs he formerly held the position of clinical senior lecturer and consultant neurologist at the university of glasgow and the southern general hospital.

i took a few notes while he spoke and here is what i jotted down:

there is still no proper understanding of the condition, although there is no blood test to show it exists diagnosis is still possible, the severity of fatigue and it's impact on quality of life are similar to ms, emotional issues such as depression, muscle pain weakness and sleep disorder contribute to overall fatigue but are not the cause, it has been over hyped that patients are depressed - this is not unnatural in patients who can't work or have a normal life, ms is not thought of as depression but affects sufferers the same amount, different virus's are linked-these can trigger me but are not the cause, chronic fatigue and depression are different conditions, intervention for depression does not cure me, different stressors can trigger me - virus, trauma etc, there is no primary muscle disease in me,drugs for chronic pain, sleep problems and depression may improve quality of life but are not a cure, controlled trials for any treatment is necessary as symptoms may become better or fluctuate, some neurologists are now interested in me as they specialise in infections although most have stepped aside - this may change the way it did for stroke patients, nhs has failed patients as it is not practical for the government to care for a complex condition like me, could me be genetic? why are some people prone to viral infections.

dr chaudhuri then detailed some autopsy's carried out on me sufferers (i think they must have had very severe symptoms as many of them committed suicide-this highlighted desperation and lack of support from the medical profession) from them one major link stood out (seen in all but one case) and that was inflammation of the spinal cord-dorsal root ganglion cells (that's what the above photo is of). these could be a marker of previous infection like chicken pox. these cells however can't be seen through scans, only through extraction. this makes it that a controlled study should take place. maybe if this was shown to be the cause then anti inflamatory injections could be used as a treatment.

the only supplements that dr chaudhuri discussed were vitamin d and essential fatty acids for muscle pain.

i left (probably like the majority of others) feeling sad. everything that was discussed except the information on dorsal root ganglion cells was already familiar to me through my own research and understanding. i am taking fatty acids (omega 3)and will purchase some vitamin d as i have heard quite a bit about it recently. i guess i was not expecting to hear about a major breakthrough, but it would have been nice to come away with a bit more hope for myself and others with this illness. i did however come away feeling lucky - i had spoken to one woman who's daughter had been confined to bed for years. most of the time i get by and for that i am truly grateful.

hello again!

2010-06-15T04:56:00.000-07:00

hello! im back again at last! i have been busy on my quest for wellbeing and for the last sixteen weeks i have been on the WEL course run by glasgow homeopathic hospital and intended for people with cfs/me symptoms. i have mentioned it here already but only gone into a bit of detail about some of it. it was really in 3 chunks, the first with dr david reilly, the second with physiotherapist stephanie wilson and the third with dr leanora coll and dr michelle mcaspurn. the last part was by far the most beneficial to me. this eight week (optional) MBCT course has been truly amazing for me in many ways, so i would like to tell you a wee bit about it here.

MBCT stands for mindfulness based cognitive therapy. this is a type of meditation called mindfulness meditation. meditation is by no means new to me. many years ago i developed an interest in yoga, meditation and buddhism. i learned how through yoga and meditation i could find a retreat from this crazy, fast paced and busy world if only for a few minutes a week. later through buddhist philosophy i learned how to face many of life's challenges and difficulties in a gentle way with kindness to myself and others. along with healthy eating and a bit of exercise i thought i had the perfect healthy lifestyle for my mind and body. when i became poorly with cfs/fibro some of this fell by the wayside. i had no energy (or cash) to attend my normal yoga/meditation classes, and what was the point anyway? i had gotten ill even with 'doing all the right things'!

by going on this mbct course i feel that have once again found a little bit of that breathing space. why meditate? well for one thing research shows that people who meditate may handle emotions such as anxiety and frustration more effectively and may also aid healing and lower blood pressure to boot. the course reminded me that mindfulness meditation is not about 'stopping thoughts' and thinking of 'nothing'. it is listening to your voice, your heart and your breathing and being present with your emotions and body sensations without trying to change anything or judge yourself.

mindfulness teacher and author jon kabat-zinn describes this nicely; ''one way to envision how mindfulness works is to think of your mind as the surface of a lake or of the ocean. there are always waves on the water. sometimes they are big, sometimes they are small, and sometimes almost imperceptible. the waters waves are churning up by the winds which come and go and vary in direction and intensity, just as the winds of stress and change in our life's, which stir up waves in our minds. people who don't understand meditation think that it is some kind of special inner manipulation which will magically shut of these waves so that the mind's surface will be flat, peaceful and tranquil. but just as you cant put a glass plate on the water to calm the waves, so you can't artificially suppress the waves of your mind, and it's not too smart to try. it will only create more tension and inner struggle, not calmness. that does not mean that calmness is unattainable. it's just that it cannot be attained by misguided attempts to suppress the minds natural activity. it is possible through meditation to find shelter from much of the wind that agitates the mind. over time a good deal of turbulence may die down from lack of continuous feeding. but ultimately the winds of life and the winds of the mind will blow, do what we may. meditation is about knowing something about this and how to work with it. you can't stop the waves but you can learn to surf''

not judging your thoughts does not mean being resistant to change. by tuning into how a certain thought makes us feel we can then decide how to deal better with our emotions. it makes us more aware of reoccuring negitive thoughts and we realise that they are just thoughts, not facts. we may be able to deal with problems, illness, relationships better with a clearer awarness of the situation. as the dalai lama points out 'meditation is merely the process whereby we gain control over the mind and guide it in a more virtuous direction'.

on the course we spent time learning different practices including bodyscan, sitting meditation, mindfulness of movement, walking meditation and my favourite - mountain meditation. we got to spend time talking over any difficulties we were having commiting to formal practice and share our progress. we got lots of homework that had to be handed in so this helped keep us motivated.

i think everyone can benefit from meditation no matter how old or healthy. you don't need you be a buddhist or meditate for hours on end. even just a few minutes a day can be really helpful in daily life. in fact we learned 'three minute breathing space' that is good to make you stop, tune into your mind and body feelings and just be. for more formal practice a guided cd is ideal to get you started. focusing on your breathing is the best way to go and when the usual millions of thoughts that come and go arise, just be aware, don't push it away. but ask yourself how does this thought make me feel? what emotions? how does my body feel? now when i feel strong emotions like anger i greet it like an old friend 'hello anger come and sit beside me' (along with frustration, self pity, fear etc). so far it has helped me cope with the onset of depression due to my symptoms and daily stresses due to my lifestyle change over the last few years or so. oh and no need either to sit cross legged on the floor if this is not comfortable, i just use a chair for the time being or lie down. the only thing about meditation that can be difficult is the commitment you need to give mindfulness practice. i am still struggling with this but it is getting easier as i feel the benefits!

during the course i struggled to concentrate due to building works outside my home, the noise has been driving me crazy and by no means perfect for meditation. i asked one of the teachers for advice and was told to make the noise my focus for meditation. as crazy as it sounded it worked!

want to give it a go? you can start by searching for local classes, purchase or borrow a cd and a couple of books and take it from there! let me know how you get on!

SOME RESOURSES: i have borrowed the following from the library and they are recommended reading: full catastrophe living by jon kabat-zinn, wherever you go, there you are by jon kabat-zinn, healing without freud or prozac by dr david esrvan-schreiber (notes the benefits of heartmath meditation) and living well with pain and illness by vidyamala burch. a friend has lent me cd's also narrated by jon kabat-zinn and by vidyamala birch that accompany some of the books. here are some websites to find out more about mindfulness meditation and related research: mind and life, meditation for the masses, mindful purpose and wild mind.

yummy goodness.

2010-04-19T10:24:00.000-07:00

my favourite breakfast is inexpensive, easy to prepare, full of goodness and extremely yummy! i mix some porridge oats with a little soya milk and a scoop of frozen berries then pop it in the microwave for 2-3 min and dada! (sometimes i add, nuts and seeds, dried fruit and honey too for extra goodness)

i alternate this every other morning with poached or boiled egg and rye toast. granted there days when i am not feeling well enough and breakfast doesn't happen at all, however i try and make sure i eat something (maybe some fruit or an oatcake etc) after all it is remember - the most important meal of the day!

what do you eat for breakfast?

help when helps needed.

2010-04-09T08:09:00.000-07:00

if you don't live in the uk or watch much british telly you might not get this post! one of the worst things for me about having an illness where you suffer from extreme exhaustion is that sometimes housework gets left behind. now and again just making a cup of tea can sometimes be a major challenge let alone getting the hoover out. after a 'bad' spell dirty dishes pile up and dustballs seem to breed as well as the laundry which can be very frustrating to someone like me who used to be very houseproud. i have even turned down much wanted visitors in embarrassment as my home often could do with a wee visit from kim and aggie!

joking aside i think there is a need for a voluntary service where someone can pop round to help out on bad days (or pop out to the shops for you), especially if you live alone. even on better days i struggle to change the duvet cover and it can leave me feeling exhausted, helpless and angry. i have missed many a cooked meal because i don't have the energy to make one. when i was on the WELL course one lady enquired (to one of the course leaders) if there was a service to help her out on days she couldn't manage to get out of bed as she was in so much pain. she just needed someone (other than a friend or neighbour) to come round with a bowl of soup. her question was ignored.

i keep thinking about this. does anyone know if a voluntary service like this exists in the UK? i need to find out more. i will darn well start one up myself when i am well enough if need be.

acupuncture

2010-03-30T12:43:00.000-07:00

i have just finished a course of acupuncture. over the last few weeks my physiotherapist andy who is a trained acupuncturist has been sticking needles in me to see if it will help with the aches and pains of my me/fibro. i have been lucky enough to received this on the NHS (i would imagine it is not readily available) as otherwise i could not have afforded to try it. i wanted to give it a try as one area which acupuncture is claimed to have an great affect is with pain relief.

so what is acupuncture and did it help? well it's an ancient system of healing developed over thousands of years ago as part of the traditional medicine of china. the aim of the treatment is to restore the balance of energy qi (pronounced chee) through the painless application of very fine needles into strategic points of the body.

qi consists of yin and yang and these two opposites (but also complementary) need to be in balance otherwise disease and illness occur in the body. needles applied to these acupuncture points give access to meridians or channels in the body through which qi flows: so that adjustments can be made to balance the yin and yang thus restoring harmony and health.

luckily andy did not apply as many needles as in the poor bloke above and it did not hurt as he popped them in my lower back. once or twice i did feel very relaxed and woozy but unfortunately i had no pain relief. sadly even if i had felt a benefit it probably would have been temporary as acupuncture is not known for it's long lasting effects.

although it may have not worked well for me (this time) it does not mean i would not recommend others have a go - you never know it may just be worth a try.

odd socks

2010-03-18T12:59:00.000-07:00

my life with cfs/me/fibro lately::wearing odd socks (and not even noticing for ages), feeling so happy when i'm lucky enough to have the energy to get dressed at all (even if that means wearing odd socks as that's all that's clean!), not remembering anything i did the previous day, trying to not get too upset by ignorant folk who do not understand (or even want to) my illness and can say hurtful things, feeling like i'm climbing mount everest when i'm only climbing the stairs, having to give up my prescription pain medication even when it helps a bit as the side affects far outweigh the benefits, reading many pages of a book before realising i have read it before, having such a fuzzy brain that i miss my stop on the train to my well being course and having to go all the way back, burning a pot of soup yet again by forgetting it's cooking and being sick and tired of being sick and tired!

a little care

2010-02-20T09:12:00.000-08:00

in my last post i mentioned a bit about this 'self care kit'. it has got me thinking what would i put in my own self care kit?

well i kinda like to think that my home is my self care kit as it is filled to the brim with cozy, comfy, beautiful things to delight my senses and nurture my soul like cozy blankets and cushions, wonderful music, feel good books, special keepsakes, artwork things i love to look at, a computer that i can switch on and see inspiring and beautiful images, three little furry balls of love, some pots and pans to cook nurturing food in and some nice smelling things. oh and a phone to call my best friend with when i want to tell her i love her. i think our home should a refuge from the bittersweet world outside if possible.

but what if i was to make a little self care kit say in a box what would i put in it?

:-)well let's see i would have to put in my ipod as music can make me feel so good and happy. then i can hear my very favorite song by sia, some ray charles, a bit of devendra, a wee bit of nina, this by sonny and lots, lots more besides.

:-)a bowl nature, like my hyggelig felted pebbles, acorns, conkers, twigs.

:-)a few books would be vital (i will be doing a post in the future just about books i find inspiring for my well being later) these would have to include my favorite nurturing cooks books.

:-)my 'snuggle' blankets and patchwork quilt.

:-)some photos are a must, some that give happy memories

:-)my donna wilson and ninon softies would just about fit in the box!

:-)some yarn and bamboo needles - knitting is good for the soul!

:-)some dvd's of feel good movies including just about anything by the cohen brothers and wes anderson!

:-)some of my favorite chocolate and pukka teas

:-)my inspiration notebook - always have a notebook at my bedside that i use to draw things i want to make in the future for hyggelig.

:-)my 'happy talk' diary that i try to fill in every day with good stuff. a vital reminder of the many things i have to be grateful for.

:-)some of my folders that hold inspiring clippings from magazines.

:-)some of my favorite positive words, quotes and mantras.

:-)a candle, matches and one perhaps of my little buddhas that i collect.

i think i will keep adding to my box..........

everyone's self care kits or boxes are going to be very different and personal and i would love to know what you would put on yours?

watering my plant.

2010-02-17T21:44:00.000-08:00

hello! im writing this at about 5.30am as orla has decided as she sometimes does when im in the middle of a nice deep sleep that it may be a good idea to wake me up! she is the only one of my furry babies that likes to let it be known when she fancy's a wee snack or is a bit bored or both! so she 'chat's' rather loudly and likes to rattle the bedroom blinds a bit. so here i am, hot waterbottle on my lap and a hot blackcurrant drink on hand.

since my last post i have had a bad cold that turned into a painful chest infection, and now back to another stinking rotten cold! i have been left feeling very weak and wobbly indeed. yesterday was the second part of a weekly course run by glasgow's homeopathic hospital, and i really struggled to get to it. i have also been feeling extremely nauseous the last few day's which didn't help! anyway i managed to make it and thought i would tell you a wee bit about it.

the wellness enhancement programme for cfs/me is run by glasgow homeopathic hospital (you have to be referred there by your gp) it has been designed to help with the feelings of isolation and hopelessness and loss of self esteem. it aims to develop a deeper understanding of the condition and so help self management and help increase your wellness and strengthen your ongoing commitment to self care. the first four parts are led by dr david reilly a consultant physician, then the next 3 by a senior physiotherapist. here is the start of my wee snippets about what i am learning:

in part one there is a load of research based facts about health care and the mind-body link. long ago health care grew in response to the challenges of acute life threatening illness. now in the post industrial world we need to tackle new epidemics of mainly chronic problems that the old ways are failing to fix - like diabetes, heart disease, obesity, depression, chronic pain, chronic fatigue etc. thing's that there is no quick fix for. nowadays we even treat drug addiction with drugs, doctors agree that a holistic approach is essential to providing good health care, however due to constraints like time this is not being delivered. we have ended up with a system where the human side of care can be under strain and undervalued in a target-driven intervention model of care. i will be talking about my own experience of the uk's health care system - the nhs in a different post.

so many of us will have to bring about a balance in our health by our own efforts as it will not come from the system. new ideas like self management are springing up in health care.

it is certain that we can learn to support our own health and help our systems efforts to get back into balance, and help recovery. even when there is no potential to change on a physical level it seems there is always potential to reduce suffering, and improve over time our inner peace and well being.

we were asked to think of ourselves as a plant. if a plant is not watered it will wilt and fade, and if pushed enough it will go to seed and die. (you can change the image to one that works best for you like an animal that depends on you or a child that needs your loving care) the idea is to waken up in yourself the connection for a need to nurture for life to thrive. we need to nurture, stimulate and support our plant, the built in potential for human beings for growth and repair. so we need to create the right conditions for the plant to grow.

what would be water and sunshine for our plant, what does it need to grow and thrive? how are you doing as its gardener?

are we in contact with nature? we are nature and it seems that our body and system respond to the environment around us. if we are not in contact much with nature can we create a small place which helps us connect with beauty or peace. even just a stone or a shell on a table. we are introduced to mindfulness meditation and learning or deepening the practice, through it we can learn to wake up our positive mood centres at will, which leads to a healthier immune response. as there are endless variations on this the course has chosen heartmath, to develop well being inside ourselves.

in part two we explore what we feed ourselves. we had been asked to keep a food diary for a week. in it's continuous efforts to re build our health and well being as best it can, your body your body can only work with what you give it. it only has the food we eat and the fluid we give it, and the air we breathe to make tissues, our immune system, our natural pain killers and mood chemicals.

we learn a bit about traditional and industrial diets, deprivation, proper fats, how to even out our spikes and dips in our blood sugar, antioxidants, organic food benefits etc

my favourite part of today was seeing a 'self care' kit and asked to consider making my own. you can add things like your favourite beautiful music, a notebook for private thoughts or sketches, beautiful things to look at and touch like a feather, stones or shells, photos that return you to your heart, spark gratitude or recall what peace feels like, and a timer for meditation practice etc.

so what did i think? well most things were familiar to me (yup i often can't believe that with all my past very healthy eating, supplements, daily exercise, meditation, positive thinking and yoga etc i still managed to get this ill!) but i still felt i could gain from coming at it all afresh as if for the first time and reflect on where i have reached, and where i might go from here.

i understood the nutrition bit, but it's crazy that often at times when we need to nourish our body's the most our limited budgets don't stretch to organic food and beneficial supplements etc, like in my case. also what i found from keeping my food diary was the erratic eating patterns due to loss of appetite and sometimes being to weak to cook properly. i will try to eat a bit more regularly now and i have already consulted my old 'low gi' diet book for cooking tips. i am lucky that spring is just round the corner and that means getting back to my wee allotment to grow inexpensive organic veggies, be in nature and have lots of fresh air!

i am really enjoying the course. dr david reilly is a super guy who makes us laugh all the time and question our way of thinking. it has made me realise that i must try a wee bit harder with 'gardening my plant' like meditating a tad more and i am also going to put together my own little self care kit and i will reveal on this blog soon!

blah

2010-01-26T08:21:00.000-08:00

i've not posted a here in a while as i'm feeling a bit 'blah' right now and this scottish weather does not help! even before the onset of me/fibro i suffered from a wee bit of 'sad' every winter anyway. right now i am trying to be kind to myself and find cheery ways to get me through to spring:

+ money is tight but i really want to treat myself to a wee cheery up!

+ lots of comfort food helps! like healthy hearty home made soup, stew's and big bowls of porridge.

+ lots of soy hot chocolate (nice with a touch of chilli!)

+ snuggling with my kitty's.

+ nice warm bath's full of rose oil that i got as a much welcomed pressy.

+ looking at inspiring images on flickr including all the amazing one's that keep being added to my hyggelig happy group like this one above from yokoo.

+ short walks during daylight ours (before 4pm!) no matter how achey or fatigued i feel.

+ reading a good feel good book or blog.

+ keeping creative - i'm meeting up with a good friend this week for a wee crochet session!

what help's you keep cheery during blah days?

happy talking twenty ten

2010-01-02T11:18:00.000-08:00

i'm back! i wish you all a very happy and as healthy as possible new year! im looking forward to spending some time here on this little blog this year sharing the ups and downs of life with cfs/me and fibromialgia. i have a few little plans and ideas.

i like to start each year by getting a new diary which i call my 'happy talk' diary. i fill it with good stuff, things i'm grateful for, nice things: a chat with my best friend on the phone, a beautiful walk, something that made me laugh. many years ago i realised that my diary concentrated on the bad stuff that happened to me, and it only made me bitter and resentful when i read it. i decided then that if i kept a diary it should just be full of the the sweet things in my life.

last year i was not very good at filling it in, i don't know why (brain fog, fatigue? and that i record some of the good things here instead) as i had things to be happy and grateful about. this year my resolution is to try and jot things down daily. that way i can look back on it when i am down or feeling sorry for myself and remember: it isn't all bad.

two years with me - but it's not all bad.

2009-12-10T13:02:00.000-08:00

i have been neglecting this blog a tad. i admit i find it easier to post on hyggelig happy as

*i am not sure if anyone reads this.
*if i am feeling rubbish i might moan a bit too much.
*if i'm having an okish day i might to sound a bit too smug.
*i don't always know where i am going with this blog.

one thing i do know is that i will carry on posting and hope to find the direction this blog is going. if i can make even just one person feel less alone in coping with a chronic illness i will be glad i started this blog.

next year i aim to start my series of interviews with lots of people who have one thing in common: chronic illness. people with symptoms, people that have recovered, medical professionals, people who can share experiences with one goal: how to keep happy while life is so restricted and challenging.
i will review books, magazines and treatments, and find out what can help even in a small way.

it is almost two years since my own symptoms started with a bad bout of flu. it's been a very tough couple of years. but it's not all bad. i have tried to stay positive and find a balance. in the last few months i have tried to channel what little energy i have into being creative. it's what makes me happy, but until i became ill and had to slow down i never had the time to make anything.

my proudest moment in these last two years was last week when the new little shop welcome home stocked some little toy bears and cards i had made.
as some day's it's hard just to get out of bed, to be able to create something and sell it feels like an amazing achievement! yes, i wish i had enough energy to make enough to sell in many shops, but it's a start, and i am chuffed to bits.

thank you to my dear friends who have been very encouraging and supportive especially emily who has been simply amazing this last year, to vicki for coming into my life at the right time, and to viv for all the love.

this will be my last post here this year so i wish everyone a wonderful (and as symptom free as possible) festive season. peace and joy. love kim x

p.s ~my MRI scan results must be ok as i have not the results yet. no news is good news!

pp.s ~i will be posting about physiotherapy and graded exercise in the new year. i would love to here about other peoples experience of this or any other related issues. you can contact me at hellohyggelig@ymail.com

ppp.s ~action for ME will be given a donation from many online shops including amazon, tesco and john lewis when you shop through their website www.afme.org.uk

my mri scan

2009-11-23T11:37:00.000-08:00

hey sorry i have not posted in ages. today i went for an MRI scan. my neurologist sent me for this and i would highly recommend that anyone with cfs/fibro symptoms should have one to rule out any other nasties that also don't show up in current blood tests. there are some other illnesses with similar symptoms that we may have but our doctors have diagnosed cfs/fibro.

the scan itself is nothing to worry about. you are inside a kind of white tunnel but it ok once you get used to it. you are allowed to bring a cd with you to play that may relax you (you have to stay still for 20 to 40 min) and earphones are supplied to lessen the strange noises that the equipment makes (from road drilling sounds to banging!) i was quite relaxed listening to this so it all went smoothly. it was a strange experience but not a bad one. i will hear from the neurologist with my results in due course.

soggy leaves and jack frost

2009-11-10T11:58:00.000-08:00

november weather is well and truly here. bbrrr.. yesterday i took this photo of jack frost on the grass outside the homeopathic hospital. i had an appointment there and was given some new powders and pillules to try. what i like about homeopathic medicine is that the doctors takes the whole person, not just the symptoms into account. you are asked many questions about you and not just your illness. i have to go back in three months. the downside is no coffee is allowed not even the decaf i would drink anyway.

today i felt awful and nearly cancelled my physiotherapy appointment. (i have bad sinus pain, i am shivery, achey and had real trouble getting out of bed) but i went - it's been a while since i was there last. i managed some exercise but boy was i was glad when it was over! ouch! even though i don't feel the physio is helping it must be - i am able to do more now than when i started. a dreary, damp november day - but i still managed to find beauty in the soggy leaves whilst on my way to the hospital. yup, i think we can find beauty just about anywhere if we look hard enough.

i will be working on some interviews for this blog soon. some lovely people who have or have recovered from cfs or fibromialgia. i want to share inspiration and advice from them with you. if you want to share your story please let me know.

a weighty issue

2009-11-09T12:30:00.000-08:00

in the last couple of years since being affected by cfs/me/fibro i have put a few stone. before the symptoms started i would walk everywhere, cycle, do yoga every week and was always on the go. go go go. i ate very healthy so was a normal healthy weight. not too fat. not too thin. from being very active to being not very active meant i was not burning the old love handles up any more! not being able to fit into any of my clothes has been a pain in the butt. having to spend my limited budget on 'loose' fitting clothes an even bigger one. but i came to accept it knowing that my weight will stabilise once i again become active. yup i dealt with it. i even dealt with all the constant remarks from my mother about my increasing weight gain each time i saw her. (no mum i don't need to see a dietitian thanks very much) my vanity had already flown out the window had it not?

well today i met a woman who i have not seen since i was a slim, long haired, non chronically fatigued person, and all that i have dealt with and accepted seemed to smack me in the right in the face as soon as she opened her mouth! first she asked me when i was 'due'! then realising by the look on my face that i was not 'expecting' continued to tell me how much weight i put on over and over and that with my hair cut short i looked so totally different!

er cheers love!

(the above photo is nothing to do with this post, however my cat biba does not seem to care how tubby i am!)

blowing away the cobwebs

2009-11-08T03:50:00.000-08:00

i was very lucky yesterday to get a (much needed) wee trip out the city to balmaha with an old friend. great to get out the city and see some nature plus get some cobwebs blown away! i only managed a wee walk but that was enough for me to see much beauty and delight my senses! you can see more here.

i have been talking to vicki and watching some of the gupta dvd's. i am going to be following the techniques and telling you about it as i go along. why am i doing this? well i have nothing to lose by accepting vicki's kind offer to learning about this programme and hopefully a lot to gain!

tomorrow i go for another visit to see a doctor at the homeopathic hospital. i will let you know how it goes.

hello!

2009-10-30T13:29:00.000-07:00

sorry for such long gaps in between posts. if im feeling really crappity crap (like this week!) i feel i will just be all moany and as that is not the aim of the blog i just email my mate tina instead for a good old symptoms whinge!

this week i have felt so tired, achey and fed up (because i am tired and achey!) and had to cancel everything planned. i only managed a couple of blog posts here and a teeny weeny bit of knitting for an upcoming craft show. except a couple of days ago i had to venture out as my cat biba was ill and had to get taken to the vet. even though it was a short bus ride and a short wait at the vet hospital i was so utterly exhausted when i came home i was back in bed right away. poor biba was so frightened of leaving home and was very brave when get injections from the vet. she has antibiotics to take and should be on the mend soon. tomorrow is my birthday and i hope to have enough energy to celebrate just a little bit!

i will try and be back next week with more regular posts. in the meantime here is a picture of my sweet beautiful biba in her pumpkin bed. happy halloween!

struggling along

2009-10-22T16:32:00.000-07:00

i am struggling along this week. yup coping with cfs is hard. been feeling a bit sorry for myself. there is so much i want to do but can't. aaaaaagggghhhhh! i keep telling myself maybe tomorrow. and i have to keep reminding myself that i am one of the lucky ones. i hate to think what it is like to be in a wheelchair all the time.
i have been to see a new neurologist who is going to send me for a mri scan, just to rule any other nasties out. he was so nice and seemed to know a lot about cfs and fibro. he advised going on the wellbeing course that is run for cfs sufferers at glasgows homeopathic hospital. i told him i was already signed up for it in january. i felt he was one of the first doctors to really care about helping me. anyway i still have many things keeping me happy this week. watching this is one of them and here's another.

confused?

2009-10-20T03:04:00.000-07:00

i have already mentioned all the recent news regarding the latest findings on the possible causes for cfs and fibro. are you as confused as me? what is XMRV and what is a retrovirus anyway? most importantly what does the discovery mean to us? i found this helpful on adrienne dellwo's blog.

inspiration

2009-10-15T13:09:00.000-07:00

apart from lying on the sofa i have been meeting some very inspiring people this week for a coffee (and a virtual coffee!) firstly i met with vicki who has recovered from cfs and is now teaching the gupta technique, that helped improve her symptoms. it was a joy to speak to her and hear her story - she had been affected for many years. i hope she will do a little interview for this blog in the future.

i was also contacted by a couple of very amazing creative women who have managed to set up businesses from home against all the odds. i will be talking more about them in another post.

if anyone has inspired you this week i would love to hear about them.

a little bit of hope

2009-10-10T09:55:00.000-07:00

jane, one of my american relations, sent me this article from the new york times. you can also read another similar article here. you may have read/heard about this yourself by now. this is good news for all of us that are affected with cfs/me, as surely if science is closer to finding the real cause, then it will be closer to finding a cure or at the very least better treatment of the symptoms.

having a laugh

2009-10-08T12:41:00.000-07:00

i picked up a leaflet a couple of weeks ago for a laughter workshop. I really do believe that laughing is the best medicine but at £8 per session, plus a trip across town in the evening to take part, sadly it will not be on my list of things to do.

apparently 'fake' laughing works just as well as real laughter as the body can't distinguish between them and releases endorphins into our blood stream anyway!

however it did get me thinking what could really get me chuckling my head off for free (or nearly free). my cat orla playing 'fetch' with me always works, joking with friends, watching the peep show or a really funny movie can do the trick.

please let me know whom or what makes you split your sides.

here is a very funny clip found by my friend emily (ta mate) to get us all chuckling away for free.......

autumn colours

2009-09-30T12:32:00.000-07:00

i love autumn so i am enjoying taking part in autmn colour week over at poppytalk. every day is a different colour. today was orange day but i was a bit too poorly to go outside to take photos. i just took a wee pic of some orange wool (between naps) and posted that. if you have a blog or flickr photo site there is still time to take part!

finding gratitude again

2009-09-23T13:23:00.000-07:00

i have weathered the storm and have been able to find gratitude again instead of just feeling sorry for myself. i am grateful for a sunny start to autumn here in glasgow and for being well enough to get to my allotment to see some beautiful flowers.

i am taking amitryptyline tablets for my fibro pain. have you been helped by them? or have you had bad side effects? i would love to hear about your experiences.

where has all the happy talk gone?

2009-09-18T10:01:00.000-07:00

over the last few day's it has been hard to think any happy thoughts or talk any happy talk with me. yup, it's been a tough old week.

lots of oouch and zzzzz (achey and exhausted) with lot's of life's hurdles and challenges thrown in to boot. to top it all my computer broke down and i have lost thousands of photos that i was just about to back up incase anything ever happened to my computer! life just sucks sometimes eh?

so i will return with a new post soon, once i manage to crawl out from under the duvet. :-(

good from bad.

2009-09-13T08:59:00.000-07:00

cfs/me/fibro symptoms are horrid.

unless you have been or are affected by them it is hard to know just how bad you can feel. or how your life can change so drastically. i was a very active person. when not working i would be walking, cycling and doing yoga to keep myself fit. from having all that energy to having zero has been so hard. i also had a home i worked hard to get, an ok social life and a job. not any more.

severe fatigue is nothing compared to feeling a 'bit tired'. my symptoms vary from day to day (sometimes hour to hour) and in intensity. every day i feel like i have flu. on a 'good' day it is like mild flu and on a 'bad' day it is like when flu is so bad it hurts to move in your bed let alone get out of it. i have difficulties with my memory and concentration, tender glands, muscle and joint pain, headaches, disturbed and unrefreshed sleep, nausea, feeling very hot or very cold for no reason, night sweats, feeling dizzy, depression, putting on three stone, problems with my balance and sensitivity to noise and light. phew!

however i am one of the lucky ones. i do not need a wheelchair and i am not confined to bed.

i have come to accept these symptoms. this does not mean i have given up hope for improvement. far from it. i continue to research and try new things to ease my symptoms which i will share with you in this blog.

i have also been through financial hell due to not earning, i am going to lose my home soon as an outcome. i also am tired of trying to explain to people what is wrong with me and why i am not working etc when i 'look' ok.

i have asked myself if my life has changed for the better in any way since my symptoms began?

the answer is yes! and to my surprise i was able to list quite a few good things!

+i always wanted a cat but was always too be busy and travelled away for work, so how could i look after one? well now i have three! when i first was off work sick i adopted my rescue cat biba. nine days later she gave birth to her daughter orla under the sofa! nobody had known she was pregnant! a few weeks ago i adopted cissy. she needed homed with other cats as she has eyesight problems. they have brought so much joy into my life. they make me laugh so much and i love them to bits! i would not have had them in my life had i not gotten unwell.

+in march this year i was offered an allotment. ironic as i had been on the waiting lists for years and now when i was least able to take one on -dada! i suddenly had one. i have been lucky as my friend emily offered to share it with me and that has been a blessing. i must thank emily for doing the majority of the work due to the fact i rarely seem to make it out here and when i do i often just manage to sit there and watch as she works her magic. it is like a little retreat in the city where i forget all my troubles and just be.

+i have had to slow down. no choice. i was always so busy. i would cram so much into each day and even feel a bit guilty if i was not always 'doing'.something. i have had to learn how to just 'be'.

+i have had to learn to simplify things. i have had my hair cropped as dealing with long hair takes to much energy etc. hours of washing, drying, straightening, styling. gone. and it's good to just wash it in the shower and towel dry. added bonus, i actually like it!

+i have always been very creative but not had the time to create. i have had time to spend knitting, drawing, sewing and printing etc. this is not as often as i would like as i don't always have the mental 'space' or energy. but it is a start. i have been able to make little pressy's for people that i could not afford to buy.

+i have had to learn to live in the 'now'. i can't plan ahead often as i don't know how i will be feeling the next hour let alone the next week! this is a good thing as when we are constantly planning ahead we often forget to 'stop and smell the roses'.

+i have had time to think about my career. i know when i get well enough to work again i will go in a different direction to what i have been doing. even in these hard times i think it makes sense to try and do something meaningful that we enjoy instead of spending hours unhappy in a stressful job we don't enjoy. i am now going to head down the path that feels right. i won't earn as much but i will be happier. sometimes it takes getting ill to make positive changes in your life.

+i am learning to say 'no'. i am still not very good at it. now i often have no choice but to say 'sorry i am too poorly today - lets meet up another time'.

+i am learning to 'stop sweating the small stuff' at last. little thing don't bother me as much. my health is the most important thing. i have really tried to deal with the things i can change and accept the things i can't. i was not like this before i got ill - i would worry about everything.

i would love to hear what good things have came out of your illness, please share your experiences.

specky four eyes

2009-09-07T08:25:00.000-07:00

i have had to start wearing glasses. i will just need them mostly for watching tv etc for now but the optician says within a year my eyesight may be worse. is my eye problems simply down to age ( i have had good vision until my forties) or could it be another symptom of cfs/me? i sometimes have pain around my eyes, blurry vision and sensitivity to lights.

i think it is a bit of both.

the thing is i feel very lucky to have had perfect sight until now and to have found glasses i really love with pink legs!

why me?

2009-08-31T10:56:00.000-07:00

welcome to my little blog! i have been living chronic fatigue/me/fibromyalgia for some time now. it seemed to start with a bad doze of flu just before christmas 07 that knocked me for six. i had to give up work and learn how to cope with this horrid beastie of a thing that has changed my life as i knew it.

the intention of this blog is not to just to have a constant moan about how awful it is living with a chronic illness. that would be easy! it is also to try and share with others how i find ways to cope and not feel so alone.

i would love to have comments from others affected with cfs/me or fibromyalgia who try to keep on the sunny side of life whilst so much is against them. what works for you? what helps? what keeps you smiling?